Find reasons to celebrate life on a regular basis. It’s a Tuesday! Your friend was promoted! They met someone new! Be generous and creative in the way that you celebrate your friends’ and family’s good fortune and major life events. You don’t always need to throw a big party. Your attitude can be enough. When something good happens to them, do you?: Show no interest (passive/destructive). Point out the downside (active/destructive). Quietly support but say little (passive/constructive) or react enthusiastically, ask questions, and show an interest (active/ constructive). Go for the last one. You will both be happier.