You usually know what you want in most situations. What acts like social glue is the ability to recognise what other people need and want, too. People are critical to real happiness. Good relations enhance life. Find balance: WIIFM – What’s in it for Me? Know what you want to achieve. WIIFT – work out What’s in it for Them in going along with your idea? Put yourself in their shoes. See what their world looks like. Then work out ways of achieving what both of you want. It worked for America and Russia in the 70s! Make it work for you.