If someone criticizes you, the memory is often stronger than the praise they have given in the past, partly because we go over and over it. Negative stuff is also more granular and sticks like Velcro. Positive slides right off like Teflon. Deliberately engineer a better positive to negative ratio in every aspect of your life. Ask what you did well and pay attention. Give genuine compliments. You need a minimum of 3 positives to 1 negative to make a team flourish at work and 5:1 to make a good marriage. It’s hard work being positive!