Make memories

Why do memories of childhood and our youth remain vivid while many of the ensuing years don’t leave much of a mark? One theory is that these were our first encounters, so sensations were strong. Later, we get jaded and don’t notice repeat experiences as they are not...

In a perfect world

People consider it normal to think “What’s the worst that can happen?” scaring themselves miserably as a result. Any time you imagine disaster looming take a moment to indulge in “What’s the absolute fantasy perfect world best that can happen?” If you are giving a...

You are not alone

Who could you call at 4:00am if you needed to talk about your troubles? If you can immediately give a name then chances are you will live longer and happier than someone who has no close confidantes. Loneliness is seriously damaging. One of your life’s goals must be...

Perfect vs Good enough

The world is divided into ‘maximisers’ and ‘satisficers’. Maximisers make you move tables three times in a restaurant till they, notionally, have the best one. Satisficers tend to know when things are good enough and can get on and enjoy their meal while maximisers...

Discover your purpose

It’s easy to keep your head down, being dutiful, working hard to get by. Later in life people often stop and ask, “Is this it?” Don’t leave the question of your purpose in life too late to do anything about it. Start with some questions: What are your deepest values?...

Be a shining star

Have you ever watched a toddler attempt to learn something? Walking? Piling up bricks? Learning to talk? They work hard, pursuing success with focus and attention that is humbling to observe. Later in life, we can be a bit half-hearted about achieving new skills. We...

Give it time

Older isn’t just wiser. It is happier too. Research shows that happiness and optimism peak in your 70s and 80s. People are often less happy in their middle years because they get bogged down in responsibilities and anxiety but then well-being rises for the rest of...

Free gifts!

In Hamburg at the Christmas markets, we saw a group of students with ‘Free Hugs!’ banners. Everyone was studiously ignoring them, going about their serious shopping. Speaking halting German, the six of us went and claimed our free hugs from each of them. We made...

Dealing with grudges

Is there someone you resent? When their name comes up does that feeling boil up again. Where did this come from? How long has it been going on? How does it affect you? By holding this grudge are you making a difference? If stuck, draw a circle in the middle of a page....

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