Start from the inside out
“The one who would be in constant happiness must frequently change.” Confucius. In pursuing happiness, it is easy to chase after the external when in fact the major obstacles to happiness lie within. Understand yourself. How do you compare to other people in your...
Happiness is right here
Everyone nowadays, whether dancing on ice or becoming a pop idol talks about being “on a journey”. Happiness isn’t a destination. It is right here, right now. Sit still, go nowhere and just think about what is making you happy in this instant. As I write, the sun is...
Make links
It’s easy to become isolated or part of a small circle, especially in modern communities. We need people to talk to, to love, to confide in, to share with and to live with. Strong social bonds with people ensure happiness. Those involved with society report even...
Don’t rest on your laurels
Old friends are great. You have been through thick and thin together and can reminisce at length about the good old days. While nostalgia can be fun, reliving great times from your youth, it can also make you feel that the best has passed. Start making new memories...
Anticipate the best
Anticipation can be a productive problem solving activity. What do I need to do to catch my plane, leave for holiday, have a good time? Too often it becomes an exercise in anxiety – what if I forget my passport, the plane is late, I have a miserable time? Try doing...
Find forgiveness
If you say you can forgive but not forget, maybe you haven’t really forgiven? Inability to forgive those who have hurt you means that you carry the burden of negative and damaging emotions like righteousness and anger, limiting your chance of happiness. You also stay...
Deal with the past
Is it worth your while to hang on to a grudge that is damaging your chance of happiness and someone else’s well-being? Was this friendship once a source of happiness? What will it take to make things right? At the time, negative feelings may have been appropriate but...
Ask yourself: “why am I here?”
What people say is important to them and what they do are often two very different things. Imagine one day when you are a 100 years old you get the chance to come back to today and give yourself advice about living the best and most meaningful and happy life. What...